Strengthen Your Relationship with Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
Evidence-based therapy for couples seeking a more profound connection and lasting change in North Carolina.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy aims to help couples shift from conflict and disconnection to a state of safety and love. EFCT is grounded in attachment theory, a systemic approach, and emotional understanding regulation. It employs experiential and humanistic approaches to promote change.
EFCT is considered the gold standard in couples therapy. It has been extensively researched and proven effective in couples' relationships. EFCT has a strong success rate.
EFCT has been demonstrated to work with diverse couples, including both traditional and non-traditional ones.
“Today, we have cracked the code of love. We now know what a good love relationship looks and feels like. Even better, we can shape it. For the first time, we have a map that can guide us in creating, healing and sustaining love.”
EFCT can help your relationship if…
You feel like you're walking on eggshells.
You feel more like roommates than partners.
You don’t feel seen or valued by your partner. No matter how many times you express your frustrations, they don’t seem to get it.
Communicating has become increasingly stressful. You’re unsure how to approach your partner anymore.
You’re trying to get past that affair, but can’t seem to get there.
Life got hectic, and the space between you and your partner just grew. You don’t know how to navigate your way back to each other.
Arguments keep happening, and you can’t ever find a way to stop them.
Who Is EFCT For?
LGBTQIA+ couples.
Couples recovering from infidelity.
New parents or long-term partners are feeling disconnected.
High-conflict or emotionally distant relationships.
Married or unmarried couples.
Couples navigating the stress of military life.
Couples wanting to improve their relationship.
What to Expect in Sessions
EFCT helps couples shift from insecurity and disconnection to secure and healthy relationships. The process follows a roadmap: reducing negative interactional patterns between partners, establishing new, healthy ways of interacting where both partners feel loved and seen, and reinforcing these new patterns.
Together, we use this map to tailor it to your needs and situation as a couple. During the initial assessment, we focus on getting to know you as a couple and individually. We use that knowledge to inform treatment and identify shared goals. We work to understand the negative cycle and develop effective ways to interrupt it.
My role is to help you break the negative cycle of interaction and guide you in forming stronger, more secure bonds. This work is collaborative — we are all part of the same team working toward a shared goal. We prioritize safety by creating a non-blaming environment where defenses can be lowered and partners can attune to each other’s internal worlds.
I was introduced to EFCT in 2020 by my dear friend and mentor. This inspired me to attend formal training, and I quickly fell in love with the approach. It aligned perfectly with my views and beliefs about love and people.
I have witnessed the transformational impact on many couples, as well as on my own relationships.
I have advanced training in EFCT, and I’m currently pursuing certification. This involves ongoing training and consultation, reflecting my commitment to the approach and to delivering the best possible services.
I offer a safe space where couples can explore their deepest hurts without judgment and the hope of achieving profound change together.
FAQs
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It depends! We can figure this out together, but the length of treatment varies depending on your relationship, the issues that are bringing you to couples therapy, and your goals for the relationship. It is essential to recognize the importance of slowing down to create space for more vulnerable emotions to emerge. Reactive responses tend to unravel quickly, and slowing down intentionally serves as a tool to understand the reactive and triggered responses.
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For couples’ therapy, we require the participation of both partners. If there are two of you in the relationship, it would be only fair to have both of you present during couples therapy. If one member of the couple is ambivalent about the process but willing to try couples therapy, we can work with that.
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It often happens, and it offers an opportunity to work through it. We will help you navigate the negative cycle of disconnection that triggered the conflict and provide guidance on how to manage it effectively.
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I’m so glad you are seeking couples therapy now! You don't need any previous experience. We will meet you right where you are!
Whether your relationship is struggling or you're simply trying to find your way back, EFCT can help!
You can have a healthy and strong relationship where both of you feel loved and secure! Healthy and strong relationships rarely happen without intentionality, effort, and work.
You deserve to feel loved and cared for!